Infertility/Pregnancy Loss is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. The inability to conceive and/or produce longed for children can be utterly devastating. It can test even the most resilient of people, the strongest relationships and shatter those on unstable footing at the start. For those who have not experienced significant losses prior to infertility, it can be absolutely traumatic. Studies have shown that women experiencing infertility have similar stress levels to women in treatment for cancer. I imagine (cis gender) men have similar stress levels, compounded by feelings of helplessness watching their partners endure the physical and emotional aspects of assisted reproduction treatments. Infertility derails our hopes and dreams, and throws off our family building timelines. The following are some resources intended to help. They are not substitutes for therapy or psychiatric care but offer some solace and suggestions for the way forward. There are tons of books available on the topic. What spoke to me may not help you, but the titles below are ones I found personally helpful.
Unsung Lullabies: Understanding and Coping with Infertility
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by Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos
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There is also a fertility mentorship program. Check it out here:
Therapy and Art Therapy can also be helpful, especially when the therapist has personal experience or expertise with infertility.
Creative Arts such as visual image making, writing, poetry, performance, etc can be immensely helpful outlets to counter the inertia of infertility and actualize one’s creative drive while expressing thoughts and emotions about experiences. Check out this fantastic resource: